Stay on Purpose…

It’s so easy to just go with the flow, after all that’s what everyone else is doing. 🤷‍♀️

I am aware. I have chosen the tough path, to follow my convictions on matters big or small. I am aware that I am doing this, not just for me. So I’m staying on this path, staying on this journey. Happy to know that it may not make sense to others, but it has its place in the grand scheme of things and that’s enough.

Just do it. Stay on purpose. Leave the noise. Don’t hide your light, let it shine! Happy Sunday. ❤️

Xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

Hello Wednesday… Do it Afraid!

I’d say something and folks go, “wow! You are so bold”. What they don’t know is that I was afraid just before I said it. I’d do something and they’ll go, “that’s so brave”. What they don’t see is the struggle right before I did it.

We are all afraid. The fear will not go away, you will have to realise that you are all you’ve got; if you don’t speak up for yourself, no one will; if you don’t stand up and do for yourself, no one will.

We have to walk right through the fear to find our own bold/brave. Do it today, do it afraid. 🙏🏽

Xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

Why Are You Here?

I am here for the difficult conversations. I am here for the difficult questions. I am here to embrace change. I am here to find answers. I am here to live and not just exist ticking society’s boxes, I am here to tick God’s boxes. I am here to learn, to unlearn and to relearn. I am here for the mistakes, for the growth and for the healing. I am here and that’s not an accident. I am here, love child of a love God.

Why are you here? xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

A Journey… Our Journey Home

Do not be afraid of the ones that kill with their tongues, their swords and other crafty devices. Be sorry for them instead, for they do not realise that here is not home, it is a journey.

In their shortsightedness they turned it into a game of envy, scheming and destruction; fighting one against the other and unhealthy competitions. We should be sad for them because they do not know that here is not home, it is a journey.

We are all travellers on a journey, no one knows when it will be their time to go home to rest; to rest from all the struggles. While we all wait for ‘home-time’, let us be good to our co-travellers. Let us travel together loving, sharing, caring and giving. Let us travel together knowing that here is not home, it is a journey! xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

 

 

Two Sides of a Coin Called Life

So we hear stories about mean folks doing mean, hateful stuff and we go, “what is this life? It’s really just a pot of beans”.

Then we stumble on a post on ‘Humans of New York’ and then someone starts chopping onions right next to us. So it looks like we are crying but we just have onion-induced water in our eyes. Lol. This is the point we realise that there is love and there is God in this world, which is pretty the same thing because God is love. From this realisation our faith is restored that hate is only one side of the coin, a side we don’t have to choose.

Hate on the one side, love on the other… the two sides of a coin called life. Always choose love! ❤️✌️

Xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

Refill. Refuel. Renew.

I was drinking water from a glass a while ago, then my nephew came with his cup to ask for some of my water. I tried to convince him to get his own water, but he wasn’t having it, he wanted to share mine. As I went on to put some in his glass for him, I realised I had finished the water in my glass already and there was no way I could fill his, no matter how hard I tried. My glass was EMPTY!

This story in a nutshell is the essence of self care. We constantly give of ourselves without taking time to pause, refill, refuel and renew. We give to our jobs, our colleagues, our friends, our families, etc. we don’t realise when we have emptied our glasses and then we cannot give anymore. Then comes the inner conflict, then the conflict with our loved ones and then we start to burn out so much that our jobs suffer in the process. We are frustrated; everyone around us is frustrated. We become confused, “what exactly is going on? Why does everything feel so wrong all of a sudden?”

The answer is that our cup is empty and we don’t realise, so we are trying to fill all these other glasses from an empty glass. That’s never going to work.

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I wrote (not typed) for three hours non-stop yesterday. From my head and pen to paper, now I almost cannot feel my right hand. Lol.

Writing = my ultimate self-care routine, add drinking tea + burning incense + the recent evening walks + meditation. Bliss! 🙏🏽

So now we know a little about me, let’s talk about you. Do you create time to bond with yourself? How do you take care of YOU? xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

The Journey of Purpose, The Picture of God

Hello everyone! It’s another throwback Thursday and I am excited. Yay me! It looks like I’m beginning to adjust fine to my own structure. How amazing is that? Time to dig up an old little something I wrote a while ago and tucked away somewhere, it’s time to share…

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THE JOURNEY OF PURPOSE, THE PICTURE OF GOD

There are lots of religion all over the place with no God.

God is not a big man in the sky.

As a matter of fact, God is not a man. 😜

God is love. God is kindness. God is respect. God is justice. God is humanity. God is everything good.

If you don’t know this, then you don’t know God.

Religion is not God. Religion is religion and God is God.

The good news is this; I found God outside of religion and that has made all the difference! The END.

Have a beautiful Thursday guys! xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

29th October 2018

Be Present in the Moment

I’m usually a slow eater and I spend a little extra time in the shower sometimes. I’ve had folks complain about this and hard as I try, this is my reality.

I started a course recently and I realised from our discussion forum that there’s really nothing off about this (unless of course you have an appointment to keep though). I actually just like to be present in the moment. I’ve never really been a believer of all that hustle and bustle life, as a lot of it leads no where if we are being honest.

I love my tea. I’m a firm believer in the power and magic of tea. I go all the way through different flavours and colours and then I come right back home to my black tea; no sugar, no cream.

Teacup after teacup, not just because the taste is great but because I am present in the moment; as each sip burns the corners of mouth, gliding down my throat and settling on what feels like my heart.

Love is beautiful! #Meditate #BePresent #BeHappy #BeAware #SelfCare #Random

Xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

Lockdown, Study Up – The Science of Wellbeing

Hello everyone, how are we all coping with the lockdown/semi-lockdown (as is the case in some parts)? I know it’s a tough time for all of us, but I am hopeful that we will survive this and come out on the other side of the pandemic better than before.

I have started actively taking courses on the Coursera App. The courses are free, you’ll probably only have to pay for a certificate (if you want one).

So to my actual gist, there is this course that I am taking at the moment, the others are mostly career related, but this one is different. I am on week three already and I think it is totally brilliant! It runs for a total of 10 weeks, you can rush the lessons if you want, but I won’t advice you to. There are daily practice assignments and rewirements to do, so it’s better to work at the pace set by the professor.

I’m so happy doing this course, I take my assignments seriously and I even downloaded the worksheet to make this easier. 👍🏼👏🏼

I totally recommend this course. Yay! Let’s go make lemonades out of our lemons, let’s make the lockdown count. 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

As the world continues to wait, hope and pray for healing, we pray also for the grace to carry on; especially for those at the frontlines – the true heroes. Love and light guys. This too shall pass! xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being

 

Letter To My Nephews And Maybe Son…

Hello everyone, it’s throwback Thursday. Yay!

So the deal is to dig up old stuff I have written, and then post on here from time to time on Thursdays. This post was inspired by one of them debates/conversations on Facebook at the time…

LETTER TO MY NEPHEWS AND MAYBE SON…

You are a man because that’s what your biological makeup says. And guess what? Unless you undergo some biological process that changes this, nothing else can.

Cooking food for yourself and your family is normal human behaviour.

Doing your own laundry or that of your family doesn’t in any way affect your manhood.

Going out to work, to pursue a dream, to make money, to fulfill purpose, are actually signs that you are in every way a normal breathing human. You are already a man, remember? This does not in any way increase your chances of being a man.

Bathing your kids, cleaning up after them and telling them bedtime stories is how humans care for, bond with and help their young (loved) ones. I don’t know how it works in the animal kingdom though, but we are humans right? Let’s stick with our own narrative.

Cleaning your house, your space or your corner is the only way to ensure that we humans do not end up living like pigs. I’m not sure doing this has ever caused any man to lose any parts, so do not be afraid darling.

When the time becomes right for you to have sex, please do it with another who genuinely wants to enjoy doing it with you. Jumping on someone who is not ready or someone you barely know or someone crying and fighting back; or even forcing someone to have sex with you DOES NOT make you a man, it makes you a rapist. Only animals just jump and have sex to ward off heat, humans are expected to have sex that is pleasurable to all participants. Then again, because I’m your Aunty/mom, I’d say, preferably with your spouse 😜.

It’s totally normal to have arguments every now and then with friends, families, girlfriends and even your wife. A woman doesn’t have to keep quiet for you to have the final say, just like a man doesn’t too. At best y’all just have to agree to disagree and guess what? You are still a man. Wow! If you don’t believe me, try it and see. Resorting to violence because your girlfriend or your wife said something that really hurt, doesn’t make you any more a man than you already are.

Then again, you do realise that it is totally healthy human behaviour to walk out of toxic situations and relationships, right? I’d expect you to do this too. You are a man not God, you can’t fix anyone.

Ignorant people who do not know who they are or what their purpose is in life will come to project their fears on you… Who you gon’ listen to? Them or your ‘all-knowing’ Aunty/Momma? 😉 #RaisingConfidentChildren

xoxo

Yours truly,

Lawyer, talker, gistaranta!

31st August 2018.